As I mentioned earlier in my blog that I am going write about my marriage proposals that went through the time when I was working in Royapuram Branch of Indian Bank .In this context I wish to state that my father never used to talk to me generally from my childhood and whatever we wanted to convey we used to have a blackboard and I will write whatever I require and he will reply me.Similarly the same used to apply with him also.He will also write and I will reply.I cannot tell you reason why were like that but it was like that for years together.When my friends visit to our house where we were living they used to call my father as my room mate.They will first put the question whether my room mate is there in the house.If I say he is inside they will not enter my house because they are afraid of him.They have a reason since my father used to shout at them for no reason.
Now coming to my marriage aspects, my father wanted to get me married and as usual since he never used to talk to me the proposal was placed in the blackboard for my approval.I was only 26years at that time and wanted to enjoy my time and I refused to accept his wish and I wrote that I am not interested.Hence one year passed and again the proposal came after one year and this time he did not write on the blackboard instead he told to one of my best friend Mr.Dhandapani to know about my decision.Dhandu as we call him asked me whether I am interested and I replied him to give my consent to my father.He immediately conveyed to my father about my consent and the developments started in an earnest way.I will narrate the same one by one till finally I was engaged.
Girl no 1:Bragathgujambal:Funny Name;This girl I saw on 3rd of November 1967.The girl was good looking and was working in a government organaisation in chennai.Though I liked the girl my father and,my grandmother did not like because the parents of the girl went to my grandmother’s place and asked about my mother’s jewels which were in the custody of my grandmother after my mother’s death since my father and me living with them.The question posed by the parents of the girl to my grandmother upset her and she advised my father to refuse the proposal since they are particular about our wealth aspects.And they also had a question whether her daughter will give the money she earns will give it to them.So the proposal was rejected.
Girlno:2.Yogajayam the girls name.I saw her on 23rd November 1967.Turned down since my father and other family members did not like the girl.
Girlno:3.Shanthi:Age of the girl was 26 and I was 27 at that time and in those days the parents are of the opinion that the difference of the age between the bride and the bridegroom should be atleast 3 to four years.Hence the proposal was dropped.
Girlno:4Gowri: This happens to be my uncles daughter and I was having a lot of interest in her being my uncle’s daughter.We lived together for about 6 years and she was my neighbour in Tambaram a suburb of chennai.She was the third daughter of my uncle and he had six daughters and a son.I used to visit them quite often after they shifted their residence from Tambaram to mylapore and we also by the time shifted from tambaram to Mandavelli.I liked her and she was also well trained in domestic duties.She was good looking too.When I expressed my desire to my father through my friend Dhandapani it was not approved and instead my father called my aunt from Mumbai to chennai to give her advise stating that the responsibility of the other three daughters of my uncle will fall on me and my father will not live with me if I marry her.I was reluctant to concede to her advice and my aunt further went on to say that my father has sacrificed his life of not marrying once again was just because of me and if he would have married my life would have been different.With a lot of thinking in my mind I had to desert her too and that was a painful decision.
Girlno:5:Rekha. The girl was living in Rasipuram and her father was a lawyer.He was a well known man in his place and was having a decent income.He was living comfortably and Rekha was his only daughter.He wanted to get his daughter married after her graduation and wanted me to get a transfer from my bank to Rasipuram branch after the marriage.I was not interested in that alliance too since I thought my father has to continue taking his food in the hotel after the marriage.Since he cannot come and stay with me.
Girlno:6;Lalitha: This alliance was brought to my father by my niece and she was also distantly related to me.She was the third daughter in the family out of five and she had two elder sisters married and two younger brothers.the girls father was working in Railways and a very good human being.After the procedure of matching the horoscopes the next procedure of seeing the girl was arranged.I saw her on 28th December 1967 and to accompany me my aunt from Mumbai,My sister-in-lay and my brother,My cousins.Everybody liked the girl and so also my father.But I did not gave my consent immediately and I wanted two days time to tell my decision.After reviewing with my Dhandu I finally gave my consent.I took two days just because I was considering the height aspects of the girl since she was short.But I finally decided leaving the height aspects because the family was good.Our betrothal took place on 3rJanuary 1968 i.e.Happened to be a day world tamil conference was conducted.Our marriage was fixed on 17th March 1968 and conducted in a marriage hall “Devendra Kalyana Mantapam” in T.Nagar area and attended by a very large gathering.Now we have completed 45 years of married life with three loving daughters all of them settled abroad two of them in Sydney and the middle one settled in USA Arizona.Father lived with me after my marriage for 11years and he passed away on 30th August 1979.During his association with his daughter-in-law he enjoyed the happiest time in his life.Because she was giving him the food he liked and wanted.